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15 Myths About Life We Should All Stop Believing

1. There is a single definition of success.

And it involves an established career, large house, acceptable body shape, marriage and annual holidays.

Everyone has their own path to walk in this life, and what brings true meaning and deep fulfilment differs for all of us.

Let go of any pressure you feel to fit the status quo. Live, work, date, play, create, travel, eat, drink, move, laugh and sing in ways that feel right with your soul. That is true success.

2. Life is meant to be hard work.

Life is meant to be easy, beautiful and overflowing with moments of joy and bliss.

The more you listen to your soul and build a life that’s true to you, the more your actions will feel completely natural and effortless.

If life is a constant struggle, you’re running on empty and you dread Mondays, it’s time to take an honest look at your life – in a loving way.

3. Life happens to us.

Where you are now is a result of the choices you made in the past. Where you will be in the future is a result of the choices you are making right now.

You are an active participant in the creation of your life. So embrace your power as a creator, and start choosing thoughts, words and actions that make a positive impact and will come back to you in a million magnificent, beautiful, jaw-dropping ways.

4. There is such a thing as normal and we should measure ourselves against it.

There is no such thing as a normal human, but there is such a thing as a ‘normal’ you – where you’re completely yourself, you love yourself deeply and you think and act in ways that feel aligned with your soul.

Let your internal compass be your only point of reference.

5. There is an ‘us’ and a ‘them’.

We draw a line around our social and family circles, keeping out everyone who doesn’t fit neatly within our definition of normal, interesting or worthwhile.

While everyone has vastly different aptitudes, passions and quirks, everyone also has the same light within them. The light within you is the same light within me, within the stranger on the bus, and within anyone you consider your enemy.

6. We have to compete for limited resources.

Life is meant to be abundant and limitless. We create scarcity by beliving in it, instead of focusing our efforts on creating, giving and contributing our gift to help humankind reach it’s highest potential.

Relax and feel it deep within your heart that you will always be provided for.

7. Happiness comes from external things.

We pin our happiness on external things like our appearance, bank balance, job title, travel plans, possessions and the opinions of others – and then suffer as a result.

True, sustainable happiness comes from within – by cultivating a mindset based on gratitude, mindfulness and acceptance.

8.  Holding grudges is a natural part of life.

When we feel that someone has ‘wronged’ us, we cling to the memory and carry it around with us for weeks or sometimes years. What we fail to realise is that we are holding ourselves hostage, not just the perceived wrong-doer.

The Buddha once said, “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.

Make forgiveness your new motto and see how much freer and lighter your soul feels.

9. There is something wrong with us.

We are plagued by feelings of inadequateness and worthlessness, postponing self-acceptance and self-love until a day in the future when we’re thinner, wealthier, more confident and more popular.

You are perfect and complete exactly as you are. Even when you are striving to improve and grow, you are complete. As the Buddhist saying goes, “We are all perfect as we are, and we could all use a little work.”

10.  It matters what other people think of us.

We give away so much of our energy, power and inner peace by worrying about what others think.

The truth is we can’t ever know for certain what other people are thinking about us. So when your ego starts to fill you with doubt and fear, remember it’s a fictional story.

11. We see things how they really are.

How we experience the world is heavily influenced by our beliefs and past experiences.

Our subconscious mind chooses pieces of information to serve to our conscious mind based on what we’ve programmed it to look for. Identify your dominant beliefs and replace the ones that aren’t serving you.

12. Meditation is something people do on a cushion at sunrise.

You can meditate and be mindful all throughout the day as you go about your life.

Pause and feel the weight of your body in your seat, the feeling of the fabric against your skin, and the slight sensation of the air on your face.

Take a few deep breaths and let your whole being relax. Scan your body up and down for sensations, simply observing without judgment.

13. When we give something, we lose something.

Giving and receiving are one in truth. When you give to someone with no strings attached – whether it be a physical gift, a compliment or your time – you are nourished as well as the receiver.

Not only do you experience sensations of satisfaction and joy, but your karma will bring more blessings and gifts back into your life.

14. We have to logically figure everything out.

We’ve been taught to trust our minds but not our intuition or inner voice of guidance.

When you’re grappling with a problem or lacking clarity, learn to lean into your soul and trust the wisdom it provides to you – often in the form of a gut feeling, serendipitous sign or a spontaneous ‘aha!’ moment.

15. We need to be more realistic.

Many people think that daily happiness and joy is an unrealistic goal, and we should be more realistic.

Happiness is THE ultimate goal of our lives, and it is both worthwhile and attainable. Understand your purpose is to blossom into the highest, happiest version of you and let go of any guilt you feel for making happiness a priority.

Elyse xx

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    Evon Soulos
    September 6, 2016 at 6:10 pm

    Thankyou so much. Everything that i needed to know was so fresh,simple. Keep up the great work. Luv u. EVON SOULOS XXXXXX

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    February 3, 2015 at 1:10 pm

    Absolutely loved this post. My favorite part was “You are an active participant in the creation of your life. So embrace your power as a creator, and start choosing thoughts, words and actions that make a positive impact and will come back to you in a million magnificent, beautiful, jaw-dropping ways.” I have quoted it in a scholarship application and I’m sure I will continue to live by it. Thank you. 🙂

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    January 3, 2015 at 7:58 am

    Saw this on HuffPost and enjoyed it – and popped over to say so. I have learned that none of these are true over the past many years, and my life is so much happier + richer for it.

    Here’s to happiness!

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    Amanda Lacey
    December 21, 2014 at 2:55 pm

    So awesome to read these Elyse! I love what you said about competing for limited resources. I think one of the most important things we can learn is that as soon as we see the world as a limitless place, we too become limitless! Thanks for your light and amazing work you are sharing with all of us. Happy Holidays!

    PS – Congrats as well (from your note in SBB) on your success with Huffington Post!

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    Peter Gordon
    December 18, 2014 at 6:56 am

    Life is very much what you make it to be. I embrace the full meaning of the word optimistic in the sense of not allowing negativity to enter my field of thought. By rapping any negativity with a positive ,you can cleverly eliminate obsticals that life will throw at you. Meditation is the key. I love myself as I have counteracted all my negative faults with positives and I’m happy within.

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    December 17, 2014 at 12:08 pm

    Amen Elyse! Loved this post. I think that believing these myths really holds people back in life.

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    December 17, 2014 at 9:57 am

    Loved this post! I especially love #11! All such beautiful reminders. Thanks beautiful x

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